When I first started doing hair, I thought being a great stylist meant being naturally outgoing. The kind of person who could instantly make anyone feel comfortable, fill every silence with conversation, and never run out of things to say.

That’s never really been me. I’ve always been a little quieter, more observant, and (if I’m being honest) sometimes a little awkward when I’m trying too hard to make conversation. I used to worry that it made me less of a stylist, like I was missing the “personality” part of the job.

But over time, I’ve realized that being introverted doesn’t mean I’m bad at connection – it just means I connect differently.

Some clients love to talk the whole time, and that’s great! But others feel more relaxed when the appointment is calm, when they don’t feel pressure to fill the space. I’ve learned that silence can actually be comforting. It can give people a chance to breathe, to scroll, to just exist for a bit while someone takes care of them.

I’m learning that my quieter nature has its own kind of warmth. I listen deeply. I notice details. I’m present. And that presence can make people feel just as seen and cared for as a loud laugh or constant conversation.

That doesn’t mean I don’t still have my awkward moments (trust me, I do). There are days I stumble over my words, or feel unsure of myself when a conversation falls flat. And honestly, sometimes I still have those waves of “am I enough?” But I’m trying to give myself grace in those moments.

Because what makes me a good stylist isn’t how much I talk – it’s how much I care.

So, if you’re a stylist who’s a little shy or introverted, know that there’s space for you in this industry. You don’t have to be the loudest voice in the room to make someone feel beautiful. You just have to show up as yourself, awkward pauses and all.